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Saved by Grace's avatar

I love this so much and it totally reflects my experience over the last 6 years. Understanding that the patterns I've had were essential to survival (as a child) has helped me to let go of blame and be grateful to my inner critic. That critic worked so hard my entire life and now she can rest as my Self grows in strength and clarity. Such a difficult and painful process, but at 67 I feel more myself than I've ever done 🙂 Karen

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Alexandra Lais's avatar

Hi Karen. Thank you so much for sharing vulnerably. I felt touched by how beautiful you articulated the role of your inner critic and how she can now be released from the burden of looking after you. I feel truly inspired by you continuing to find and become truer versions of yourself as life goes on. It reminds me that this process truly is a life-long journey. Lots of love 🌹

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Andrew Lynch's avatar

I’ve been pondering and writing about this idea of becoming more you for about a year and a half. I love it.

Being and becoming are wonderful, but becoming who you already are, and even more so is what we all need to do

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Alexandra Lais's avatar

Hi Andrew. Thank you so much for sharing your reflection. And please do share with me your writing on this topic if you wish to.

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Andrew Lynch's avatar

Thank you. Looking fwd to reading your posts

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The Intuition of Dreams's avatar

Great read. It comes up in Dreamwork, among other things. Thank you for this.

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Alexandra Lais's avatar

Thanks for taking the time to comment!

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Bentley Kalaway's avatar

I really appreciate the writing you share about our nervous systems and authenticity. I believe it is an important connection that has to be addressed in our overwhelmed culture if we are to evolve. Thank you.

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Alexandra Lais's avatar

Hi Bentley. I believe so too, and I am grateful to see this connection recognised by you. Thank you for letting me know ✨

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Danielle's avatar

As a writer who writes about our nervous systems a lot, it was refreshing to read your experience and lessons with your nervous system. I loved learning about the shift between authenticity and self-protection. That’s makes so much sense! I also loved the words about letting your nervous system know that being authentic is also safety. That’s huge! Chasing our dreams can be safe. I feel that today. I appreciate this reflection. Thank you!!

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Alexandra Lais's avatar

Hi Danielle. So glad the article spoke to you. I truly do find this acknowledgement and work with our bodies and our nervous systems to be revolutionary, that's why I keep going on about it!

It's beautiful to have such meaningful conversations on Substack about this topic, so thank you for taking the time to leave your reflection.

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Danielle's avatar

I believe it’s revolutionary too! I wrote about it a lot in my newsletter, and a bit about it in my self-published book! I love wondering about our nervous systems. They’re so magical.

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Alexandra Lais's avatar

Please do share one of your articles with me, would love to read!

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Danielle's avatar

I’m sure there’s a few that you would like. This post describes the foundation I use in my perspective on life and healing https://open.substack.com/pub/sixsoles/p/misdirection-of-energy-management?r=2v87z5&utm_medium=ios

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Alexandra Lais's avatar

Great, will have a read!

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Danielle's avatar

Let me know what you think after!

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