I spent all of my childhood up until my early 20s managing emotions by myself and doing my best to not appear vunerable.
After a difficult break-up in my mid-20s I realised I couldn’t do it alone anymore. Opening up to people, being vunerable in front of them and alowing them be vunerable in front of me. Not only helped me heal, but it created connections and real friendships built out of unconditional love.
I didn’t realise how lonely I was before that. That “real” connections are created when we expose ourselves to others, and are accepted for who we are. Not validated, but accepted and seen!
Hey there. Oh so beautiful how you described this process. The thing we crave most is intimacy with others, yet we miss the fact that that’s only possible through showing our most vulnerable parts. Thank you for sharing your personal experience with us.
Good read!😊 That makes me think of how many people I might deal with on any regular day without having actually the slightest clue on how they really are, what they feel and which fights they are fighting…and, ultimately, what traumas under the surface there probably are. And let‘s be honest: We all face some traumas from the past and our childhood. And you, my dear, really found the right words to describe that! ✍️
I'm right there with you Tim. Aha moments can be good, I will however say take your time with this realisation. It is important that you feel safe to begin sharing more of your experience with others. This is still a work in progress for me too - small steps. Thank you so much for reading and sharing.
This was a great read because I related to it so much. In my journey, imposter syndrome is such a difficult thing to overcome, and a lot of feelings tied to shame and embarrassment from old wounds.
Hey Shelb. Oh I so feel you. Shame is so entangled into so many emotions and experiences that we have. It is one of the most difficult emotions to navigate for me too. I appreciate you sharing your experience and thank you for reading.
I appreciated this piece so much and your vulnerable, open sharing. I agree that we're not meant to feel and heal in isolation. That's something that truly does need to evolve in order for us to thrive in connection with others. We've become so independent in all ways, especially healing, forgetting how interdependent we are.
This was a beautifully raw piece. Thank you for having the courage to tell us how you feel. You’re an inspiration.
I appreciate this a lot, thank you.
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Great article! I can relate to it a lot.
I spent all of my childhood up until my early 20s managing emotions by myself and doing my best to not appear vunerable.
After a difficult break-up in my mid-20s I realised I couldn’t do it alone anymore. Opening up to people, being vunerable in front of them and alowing them be vunerable in front of me. Not only helped me heal, but it created connections and real friendships built out of unconditional love.
I didn’t realise how lonely I was before that. That “real” connections are created when we expose ourselves to others, and are accepted for who we are. Not validated, but accepted and seen!
Hey there. Oh so beautiful how you described this process. The thing we crave most is intimacy with others, yet we miss the fact that that’s only possible through showing our most vulnerable parts. Thank you for sharing your personal experience with us.
Good read!😊 That makes me think of how many people I might deal with on any regular day without having actually the slightest clue on how they really are, what they feel and which fights they are fighting…and, ultimately, what traumas under the surface there probably are. And let‘s be honest: We all face some traumas from the past and our childhood. And you, my dear, really found the right words to describe that! ✍️
You’ve put it into words so beautifully! Thank you so much for your thoughtful reflection 🙏🏻
I’m right there with you on this, every word truly resonates with me and I appreciate your perspective on this topic. You’re so right!! 💡
I'm glad this article landed for you, and thank you for taking the time to comment 🙏🏼
Appreciate you
Thank you Phil.
A bit of an aha moment here. A lot of my healing was by myself as well. No one witnessed it, it wasn’t a shared experience.
I need to consider bringing some of it into the light.
I'm right there with you Tim. Aha moments can be good, I will however say take your time with this realisation. It is important that you feel safe to begin sharing more of your experience with others. This is still a work in progress for me too - small steps. Thank you so much for reading and sharing.
This was a great read because I related to it so much. In my journey, imposter syndrome is such a difficult thing to overcome, and a lot of feelings tied to shame and embarrassment from old wounds.
Hey Shelb. Oh I so feel you. Shame is so entangled into so many emotions and experiences that we have. It is one of the most difficult emotions to navigate for me too. I appreciate you sharing your experience and thank you for reading.
Thank you for this masterpiece. 🥰
Oh thanks for letting me know you’ve resonated with it, and for sharing.
I appreciated this piece so much and your vulnerable, open sharing. I agree that we're not meant to feel and heal in isolation. That's something that truly does need to evolve in order for us to thrive in connection with others. We've become so independent in all ways, especially healing, forgetting how interdependent we are.