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Saved by Grace's avatar

It's taken me a long time to do this, but now when I feel upset/triggered, I give myself time to feel the wound that has been opened because of what's happened. I used to blame myself or others, but by paying attention to how I feel, rather than what I think is taking me along this path 💛

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Alexandra Lais's avatar

Thanks for sharing Karen. Being with the experience as it is instead of going into blame or guilt mode is a lot more revelatory. It ultimately lets us reconnect with parts of us we've denied.

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Charles Callis's avatar

Yes. You have to ask the feeling what it is saying. The initial thought is usually a response to the perception of being threatened: fight or flight, attack back or avoid the issue.

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Alexandra Lais's avatar

Precisely Charles. The emotions will be accompanied by a response in the body, or the other way around. It is important to let it all metabolise (i.e complete itself), so that we can have a version of our truth that is rooted in regulation. Thanks a lot for your contribution.

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Corie Feiner's avatar

yes, they are!

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